#soulSOLUTIONS: up and down with my money

“Rich people watch their money go up and down.  Poor people go up and down with their money.”

Screen Shot 2015-04-19 at 9.05.49 AMMost of my life I’ve gone up and down with my money.  There just never seemed to be enough.  I became a master of strategizing, compromising, and surviving – usually coming up with bare minimum to scrape by.  Survival mode is exhausting and I found little joy in the experience so I finally decided to change my mind about money.  I wish I could say the results were instant and astonishing but it’s been a very gradual process of remodeling my mind.

In order to create new and lasting experiences we get to change our consciousness.  Our consciousness is the sum total of our thoughts.  Our thoughts create our beliefs and our beliefs create our experiences.  So, if you’d like to have new experiences in life the invitation is to change your mind.  Change your thoughts, change your life… simple right?

What’s the catch-phrase, “It’s simple but not easy.”

It’s not easy because it requires a commitment to an often lengthy process. We can touch a button on our phones and download whatever we’d like in a matter of seconds; patients isn’t always the first tool we reach for in Life’s toolkit.  But if our consciousness is the sum total of our thoughts, this means to create change we have to address one thought at a time.  Remodeling belief-systems we’ve had our entire life takes time; my friend Jacob says the process is like taking penguin steps.  I had to learn to not give up.  I always thought I was doing it wrong because I wasn’t getting instant results.  I’d read the books and do what they suggested  for a couple weeks.  Sticking with it wasn’t really my style.  As soon as frustration kicked in I would move onto the next self-help book that promised to have the REAL solution.

It wasn’t until I stuck with the process of releasing one limiting thought at a time that I began to experience the results of a new consciousness.  My affirmations started sounding like, “I’m willing to believe my greatest good is unfolding no matter what” and “I KNOW I live in a loving Universe where every need is always met”.  Whenever a fearful thought came up, I would look at it and ask, “Is this true?  Is it really really true?” and “Am I interested in experiencing this?”  Inevitably I would just let it go by declaring, “I’M NO LONGER INTERESTED IN BELIEVING THIS…” and then turn my focus onto what I was interested in.  Little by little things got easier.

Today, I stay away from conversations about declining economies and over-priced luxury items because I know that the best-case scenario is ALWAYS unfolding for me.  It took some time but my life truly is a lot easier today.  If there’s something I’d like to do I know I’ll do it.  I’m willing to be taken care of and I’m really committed to being happy, so now it seems my world just adjusts itself to support me.  I changed my mind about my life, my finances, my health, and my work one thought at a time.  I had to hang in there but the pay off was worth it.

Now, it doesn’t matter if my money goes up or down – I stay centered in Love because I know everything is working out for the very best.  And it always does.

xxx, Jesse

Note: The best-case scenario doesn’t always look like me getting what I want.  I don’t always know what’s best for me and there’s a lot freedom in trusting that whatever unfolds is ALWAYS for my greatest good.  

#soulSOLUTIONS: how I healed my body shame

bmi-bathroom-scale“Uh-oh be careful, those jeans are getting tight – you don’t wanna get fat, do ya?”  I turned my head to look at my butt as the world began to crumble around me.  With one playful jab my grandfather unknowingly cast a spell that would last deep into my thirties.  In that moment I became a fat person and my body shame was ignited. I was eight years old.

Being fat was a state of mind for me.  No matter how active I was or how much I weighed I was always fat.  Agonizing over each pound, my body dysmorphia took me to dark places.  I declined pool party invitations, avoided men’s fitness magazines and got depressed if I ate a decadent meal.

Now, I was never actually obese.  Quite the contrary, when I look at old pictures I laugh at how skinny I was, it was all in my mind but it didn’t matter.

After Chris and I fell in Love I gained approximately 15 pounds.  You can imagine what ACTUAL weight gain did to my psyche.  Constant irritation and obsession over pant and shirt sizes coupled with waves of shame, blame and irritation.  I did a lot of inner-work to keep the negativity at bay but I couldn’t seem to find the “aha moment” that could make the self-criticism stop.

It wasn’t until I was taking an exercise class recently that the miracle happened. I had an epiphany that loosened the chains of body-shame enough for me to escape.  For the first time in a long time I felt free!  There I was kicking ass in class, per usual and I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror, naturally I didn’t like what I saw.

“Ugh … I look fat.”

Then I heard a little voice say, “Think of everything you’ve accomplished being fat.”  As I continued my cardio I went over the list of my accomplishments from the last two years:  I got engaged and married AND we celebrated our 1 year anniversary AND my husband thinks I’m totally hot, I’m doing what I love full-time and it’s paying the bills, I got a new car, I’ve travelled all over America, we’re preparing to adopt, I was on a national television show and published several times over.  Wow, all this cool stuff while being fat.  Not bad.

Then it hit me.  It’s not the fat.  The fat doesn’t mean ANYTHING… it never did.  It’s everything I make it mean that creates all the suffering in my life.  Fat is not good or bad, it’s neutral and right now it’s actually helping me.  It’s bringing to surface all the insecurities, negative beliefs and ludicrous thoughts I’ve been lugging around that I’m not interested in keeping anymore.  As I become aware of these thoughts I have the opportunity to release them!  I don’t have to be a slave to my negative thinking!  Wow – LOVE handles indeed!  I was projecting all this nonsense onto my body.

The rest of the class I had a huge smile on my face as I repeated mantras like, “I’m fat and I’m great.”  “I’m fat and I’m successful.”  “I’m fat and I’m happy!”  “I’m fat and I’m LOVED!”  It was a great time.

I believe that Love is the great healer and healing can be instantaneous.  I don’t know if it’s in my cards to ever have a six pack again and that’s okay.  I eat consciously and exercise regularly so I’m not distracted by feeling lethargic and unhealthy.  With less distractions I have more freedom to focus on what matters most to me, LOVING MYSELF unconditionally and inspiring others to do the same.

xxx, Jesse

#soulSOLUTION: do you have a codependent relationship with your Spiritual practice?

Screen Shot 2015-03-23 at 10.10.05 AMI used to have a codependent relationship with my spiritual practice.  I’ll explain.

Meditation, prayer, and spiritual community are tools that help me feel happy.  When I started my current spiritual adventure I absolutely benefited from the discipline and structure that my meditation and prayer practice provided. I also noticed that if I didn’t meditate or pray for X amount of hours I’d feel off my game and prone to irritation and upset.  

As I deepened my practice I noticed elements of codependency or what A Course In Miracles calls a “special relationship” with my spiritual practice.  I was giving my practice the power to determine the kind of day I was going to have … I think I was slightly missing the point.

Last week Chris and I flew to New York to be with our family during a challenging time.  My role on this trip was to be a loving husband and available to my family.  There was a lot to do when we were there, so much so that I didn’t have many opportunities to meditate, read The Course, or connect with my spiritual community.  But something was different this trip.  Even though I didn’t do my normal practice I didn’t feel depleted, irritated, or on edge; I actually felt great.  Being of service to my family fed my soul and gave me the privilege of supporting my loved ones.  I allowed my life to be my practice.

The tools that make up our spiritual practice are important and help us feel good, which is the name of the game, right?  But if we hold so tightly to our rituals that we can’t be happy unless we do them then we’re turning the practice into a false idol.  A false idol is anything outside ourself that we make responsible for our peace of mind.  Allow your life to be your practice.  Utilize the tools that resonate with you to support you on your path but I invite you to contemplate where you might mistake dependency for discipline. 

If our life is our practice then guess what … we’re always in practice!  My practice is one of Love and kindness.  So, throughout my day I do my very best to be Loving and kind and work through fearful (ego) thoughts when they arise.  I support myself by using spiritual tools that resonate with me and perhaps most importantly of all, I do my best.  I do my best to hand each day over to my Spiritual Consciousness and devote as much time as I can to practice meditation, prayer, and service.  But I’m not interested in having a co-dependent relationship with anything, namely my own Spiritual practice.

My life is my practice.  With that in mind, I’m gonna stop typing and go be the Light of The World in my boot camp class which starts in twenty minutes. 

xxx, Jesse 

#soulSOLUTIONS: is peace enough?

Screen Shot 2015-03-17 at 12.02.20 PM“But seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all of these things will be provided for you as well.”  

This famous bible verse can easily be translated into: “Get a spiritual program and you will be rewarded with stuff you want.”

Is it possible to seek the kingdom within with no alternative motive?  What if the big payoff was simply peace and contentment?  Would that be enough? 

The promise of getting a reward is very alluring but I don’t think the original verse has much to do with cash and prizes.  In more than one translation the verse ends by saying, “and he will give you everything you need.”  I have enough experience and perspective to know that what I need is often (if not usually) different from what I think I want. 
The beloved spiritual teacher Ernest Holmes has said that true prosperity is well-being in all areas of your life.  There isn’t any mention of mansions, millions, or fame.  
I think this verse is a promise of peace, a feeling of connectivity and union with Love.  These are the most valuable benefits of strengthening our spiritual life.
It’s important for me to test my temperature so my motives feel clear. Even writing this blog I ask, “Why are you writing this?  What’s your motivation?”  Am I writing this so I can gain more clarity and sharing from a place of service or am I enchanted by the possibility of recognition and praise?
I’m no dummy and I’m not interested in judging anyone either, that game has yet to produce any joy in my life.  I continue to deepen my spiritual practice because I believe that I already have everything I need and I want to remain smart enough to be grateful for it.  The joy-filled feeling that all the good of the Universe is active within me right now is its own reward.

#soulSOLUTIONS: A new approach to using affirmations that really work.

even-if-youre-on-the-right-track-youll-get-run-over-if-you-just-sit-there-heather-s-hustonOn the path to achieving goals we often have to learn a new way of moving through the world;  a way that’s aligned with the goals we create for ourselves.  It’s common to experience discomfort during the growing process. One valuable (and fun) tool I use to help me move through the discomfort is positive affirmations.  But it wasn’t until I made an important adjustment to my affirmations that they began to really work and supported me in creating new experiences.  This adjustment helped me expand my comfort zone and release a lot of my old self-defeating habits.

In this video you learn how to re-invent your affirmations and begin experiencing lasting results that leave you feeling on track and inspired.

#soulSOLUTIONS: are you prepared to achieve your goals?

How are those New Year’s Intentions coming along?

Last week we discussed 3 steps to creating palpable intentions that will get you started on a clear path towards achieving your goals for 2015.

They are:

1. Get clear on how you’d like to FEEL

2. Get clear on who you’d like to BE

3. Get clear on what you’d like to DO

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The process doesn’t stop here – there’s more to the game.

Are you prepared to achieve your goals? I was a MASTER at doing the inner-work when it came to this stuff.  I’d meditate and see myself as having all my dreams fulfilled.  My apartment walls were covered with vision boards and  sticky notes that had motivational quotes scribbled on them.  I was feeling SO excited … but WHY WASN’T ANYTHING HAPPENING?!

In this week’s video we explore the next step towards ACTUALIZING our goals.  I learned this process after years of getting an arms-length away from my goals without actually achieving them.  By applying this step I went from the kid on the street looking through the window of the toy store to the kid playing with Tonka Trucks (or Barbie Dolls if I’m keeping it real).

Watch this short video & learn the next valuable step…


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